Confidence and Capability
When you walk down the street, your mind is absorbing some of what goes on around you. Not nearly enough, most of the time, or there would be far fewer victims in the world. But for the most part, there are time when you consciously observe another person or other people. Watching how different people carry themselves can be fascinating when you really take in how varied behaviors can be.
In terms of carrying yourself in a certain way; this can set you up to be a target or keep you from being targeted. Here I want to delve into the assumptions we make based on standard observations.
If you’ve ever been out at a party or a club, even at a sporting event..shoot, sometimes it could be at work; you’ve encountered a person who is louder and more arrogant than the majority of others you come into contact with. If you have the pleasure of spending any amount of time with a group of twenty-something men; full of testosterone and ego, then you can likely pinpoint the behaviors that exude “confidence”. The one who puffs his chest and flexes his muscles has confidence, right? Nobody would be able to mess with this guy.
Now listen carefully. Some people have confidence. This is a good thing. You should have confidence when you walk into any room in any location. Hold your head up high and look around the room (scanning to gain situational awareness, of course). But..and this is a big but…don’t make the mistake of assuming that confidence is equal to capability in terms of defending yourself against violence.
Confidence is great but it does not equal capability. To be capable, what is necessary is some reality based self defense training (sometimes called self defence training). Even the most arrogant of the bunch can be taken down by an unexpected blow, or by a weapon wielding attacker. Self defense training is a necessity for anyone who really wants to have the true capability to protect themselves in any situation. Without it, you run the risk of losing the upper hand to a larger, quicker opponent.
When I say self defense training, I don’t mean basic martial arts. Tai Kwon Do is not self defense, it is sport (“DO” is sport). If you want to play, great; but if you ever need to fight, confidence needs to be paired with real honest to God capability and that is only obtained through a rigorous self defense training course. The reason being that self defense isn’t all about kicks and strikes. Although that is a large part, there is so much more that goes into defending yourself than that. You’ve got to learn how to react quickly to anything an opponent might through at you.
Remember, there are no rules in violence. You’re not in a ring with a referee circling you; you may be in a store or in your home; you may be in a parking lot or parking garage. Violence happens in all sorts of places and there are no rules to follow. You just have to know how to take your attacker out quickly and effectively, hurting him bad enough to get away. Self defense training is the only way to make sure this happens.
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